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Book developments in brief

We did our first radio spot yesterday. Was terrified and saw some "red strychnines" during the evening and in the morning then all day yesterday and today...Hope they go away. But we did fine, so everyone who heard it says. THe reviews have mostly all been quite good as have the articles, all postive. Tomorrow is the big day, our first. We do a TV interview first, then a rado show, then a big reading and booksigning at a town hall auditorium...Everyone of which terrifies me. I'm doing it for you, guys, so wish me luck. And by the way, I wrote the book, if you didn't know it, because so many of you wrote to me and told me that I had written in my various posts exactly how you felt but couldn't put it into words. So I figured if I told my story well enough, I could write something that would help all of us in some way. I guess I should have explained that much earlier...Anyhow, better late than never, right? Well, the documentary filmmaker just came again, for the hundredth time it seems (she's been coming here more a year or more now to film the writing of the book and the finishing process) so I guess I'd better quit. TTFN

Writing and Memories

Memory is fiction. I read that somewhere recently, perhaps in the New Yorker, and it stuck with me: Memory is fiction. It’s not that we make our memories out of whole cloth; we believe we remember things clearly, but the mind is a funny thing and what we recall happened, and what “really” did are two different things. Of course, in the end, there is little way of knowing what is correct, unless the event was a public one and well-documented. But what is this notion of “really happened” anyway? If I believe it happened one way, and this belief has informed my life and behavior ever since, isn’t that what is the most important thing about the event, more important than the theoretical “facts” of the matter?

You might turn around and say Fiction is memory, meaning that in all the stories we make up about the world reside parts of ourselves and our lives, that nothing is ever truly “made up” or foreign to our experience, however outlandish the characters or strange the fictional events. There is a truth behind the settings and deeds that derives from one’s center, making fiction a personal memory of the deepest sort.

People have asked how I could recall with such clarity events that happened 20, 30 or 40 years ago, even down to dialogue, the way I’ve written it in the book, and all I can say is that I feel I remember every event I recount as clearly as if it happened yesterday. No guarantee, mind you, if memory is fiction, that it is factually accurate, so much as that it captures what remains of those years in my memory. In fact, I remembered a great deal more than what I’ve written, until the book project was finished, at which point I pretty much lost the rest, having set down what I did as “my story” and mentally deleted all other remembered events as less important, therefore forgettable...I wish this hadn’t happened, as there was much I used to recall. Perhaps I have earlier versions of my book, without the deletions made, on my hard drive to jog my memory, but it is as the author (name escapes me) of Pilgrim at Tinker Creek wrote, (I paraphrase) If you prize your memories, don’t write them down, because that solidifies them forever in one form that freezes out all others.

Nevertheless, not a word I have written has been fictionalized, so to speak. I remember each and everything that I have written about, though whether my memory be factually accurate or not is anyone’s guess. The facts, as I’ve pointed out, don’t matter much anymore, because I’ve lived my life through the memories, and the memories have been what has influenced me, affected me, changed me and made me into the person I am today, for good or ill.

Essay in paper

Just alerting anyone who is interested to the "Lives" essay that we wrote for the New York Times Sunday Magazine, which will be in this Sunday's paper, Aug. 7th. It is available on-line at NYtimes.com. Take a look if you have a chance. Happy summer!